The drama llama still has no power over me.. but unrelated to the previous potential source of drama (Holierthanthou not getting loot) a new and special form of drama reared it head.. and then was .. headded-off.
Three members were unhappy and left the guild. We (the guild and Grand Council) had -no- idea they were unhappy until they left. We (mostly the guild master) continued to talk with them after they left.. and the very next day they rejoined the guild. We (the guild and the Grand Council) are now aware of some issues we weren’t aware of and we’re trying to make changes to prevent this from happening again.
Losing good players from your guild for asinine reasons is .. Asinine.
The first lesson I hope you, my readers can take away from this is:
If you’re in a good guild and your having problems with the guild, with the leadership, with the culture, with the policies/rules, with specific individuals within the guild.. and it’s bad enough that you’re considering leaving the guild.. talk to the guild leadership. Chances are pretty good that their unaware of this thing that’s annoying you. The guild leadership can only fix things they know about. If you’ve told the leadership.. and they’ve done nothing to fix it .. -then- leave. But just leaving because they don’t fix something they don’t know about.. is asinine.
The second lesson I hope you, my readers, can take away from this is:
If you’re the group leadership, talk to your guild membership. Find out what’s bothering them. If everything seems to be skimming along swimmingly there’s probably something you’re unaware of. Also, be prepared to address issues. Being told that “Player X is annoying and takes over raids” isn’t useful if you don’t then go on to talk with Player X to make him/her aware that his actions in the raid are being perceived as “taking over” the raid.
Also, if you have a good guild.. and people are leaving.. find out why. Losing good players from a good guild for asinine reasons is .. Asinine.
The lesson I take away from this is that -I- need to talk less.
One of the problems that was mentioned is that I “treat them like children”. I have never intentionally treated someone in the guild like a child. This means that some action I take is being interpreted as me being “condescending”. So viola.. if I’m not talking then I’m not condescending.